Stop feeling helpless, hopeless, or overwhelmed. Stress can effect almost every part of your life including your health, relationships, productivity at work, and general happiness. Take charge and learn to overcome your stress.
Are you hoping to make positive changes in your relationship, personal, or professional life? Perhaps you want to prevent future issues or maximize your potential. It might be time to get some expert guidance and coaching, and I can help. I work with individuals and couples to improve communication, increase intimacy, decrease stress, and maximize peak performance. I offer single coaching sessions by phone or longer retreats that allow for a deeper dive into working on your goals. I believe everyone has the right to live a fulfilling and happy life, and I look forward to helping you achieve your’s.
Do you want to be your best self and live an authentic and happy life? Happiness is on the decline in the United States and people are reporting very high levels of stress. Many feel helpless and hopeless with no idea how to turn around their lives. Fortunately, there are practical tools you can learn and use to regain your life and get on track.
Your retreat will start with a discussion about your history of stress and health. We will then measure your brain activity to see how you handle stress and what the best techniques will be for you to reduce it. Finally, practice, practice, practice. We will work together to practice and refine your skills while addressing any barriers along the way.
"My husband and I got more done in 3 hours with Dr H than in several years of therapy with multiple therapists."
"After just one neurofeedback session my wife said I was a changed man. I was more pleasant, had more energy, and I slept great that night."
"I just wanted to say thanks for the good session today. It's great to have the practical exercise. Looking forward to using it."
"I can confidently say I feel like myself again. I am so thankful I have met Dr H.”
"I can’t say enough about Dr. Helfand. Every morning, I’d wonder how I could possibly get through another day. I was cranky. Ask my husband. Since working with you, I have seen such amazing improvement, and I even finished writing two novels! Dr. Helfand is kind and approachable, entirely professional, but with a ready sense of humor. I highly recommend this practice to anyone who wants to reclaim lost parts of themselves, or who just wants to be their best possible self. It’s amazing getting up every day and looking forward to life!"
"Thanks for all the help this past year. Our son really does seem to be doing better in school and at keeping his mind from cycling through worries."
“I just wanted to say thank you for the amazing help you gave me. I’ve continued to manage my anxiety using skills you taught me, and I now work full time and I’m planning to go back to school. Before I saw you, I could barely leave my room, but now my life is completely different and I’m able to do pretty much anything I want to. I just wanted to thank you again for all the awesome help you gave me that I continue to use every day!”
Stress creates a very specific response in our bodies and minds. Most people have heard of the “fight, flight, or freeze response.” This is the process we go through when we feel stressed or threatened. We are preparing to fight, run away, or we just freeze and remain still. This is highly useful if you are about to be eaten by a lion or hit by a bus. It is not a helpful reaction when you have a deadline at work or arguing with your spouse though. We have to learn to adapt our old stress response to our new world. Essentially, we need to upgrade our system to optimize the outcome.
The key to harnessing stress for performance is to alter our interpretation and experience of it. Stress is generally divided into two categories: distress and eustress. Distress causes a negative reaction along with a flood of toxins in our body. Eustress is seen as a challenge and allows our minds to think clearly and stay sharp. The only difference is how the mind perceives the stress, and this technique can be taught to anyone ready to learn.
Mastering your calendar could be one of the most important steps you take to decreasing and managing your stress. Many people have told me that a major source of stress for them is feeling over scheduled, overwhelmed with to-do’s, and not having a healthy work-life balance. I’ve heard the phrase “I didn’t have time for X” so many times that I know gently correct everyone “You mean you didn’t make time for X.” This simple shift can help you regain control and feel empowered to take the next step in managing your time.
It's all In Your Head... Maybe
Balancing your brain is an important step to managing your stress. It’s time to figure out how your brain works.
My life is good, but can I prevent stress in the future?
Great question, and absolutely! Prevention is always better and easier than trying to fix something later. Learning tools to prevent stress and maximize your potential is an excellent way to invest in yourself and your future.