Specializing in Premarital & Newlyweds

If you are trying to improve communication and build intimacy, then it might be time to schedule a private 2-day couples retreat.

You probably know that 50% of marriages end in a divorce. You may not have heard that in an additional 30% of marriages at least one spouse reports being unhappy. That means only 20% of marriages are happy and long lasting. My job is to teach you how to become part of the top 20%. Whether you are about to get married, have been married for a short time, or have been together for years, there are practical skills that you can learn to improve your connection and satisfaction in your relationship.

What to Expect

Couples’ Retreats are 2-Day programs that include time for discussion, practice, and integration of the techniques being taught. Each day goes from 10am until 3:30pm with a one hour lunch break.

All retreats take place in my office in Massachusetts. I work with one couple at a time so we can focus on your specific needs. Day one starts with an overview of what makes relationships work. Then I take a history of each person to help understand how your past influences the relationship or marriage. We will then review healthy communication skills that bring couples closer together instead of pushing them apart. The rest of the day is devoted to practicing and refining the skills.

Day two is all about practice. You and your partner will be using the skills, and I will jump in as needed to coach or provide additional education.

Learn How To

  • Improve communication skills
  • Successfully have difficult conversations
  • Increase intimacy
  • Increase sexual satisfaction
  • Prevent divorce
  • Identify and manage your emotions
  • Balance your life with work and family
  • Prevent affairs


Talking about difficult topics can actually increase your connection with your partner.

Most people have never been taught how to communicate in an intimate relationship, and couples often get into bad communication patterns, spiraling down into angry and frustrating situations. There are learnable skills that can help you to avoid these pitfalls. Learning how to effectively communicate not only will improve your primary relationship but also can enhance other work and life situations. Learn how to show appreciation and understanding as well as how to negotiate challenging topics.​


Learn how to improve the three L’s for a successful relationship: Love, Lust, and Like.

Most couples want to have a strong emotional connection as well as a good physical and intimate connection. This can be gained from understanding the formula of Love, Lust, and Liking each other. Being best friends and good lovers builds the intimacy bond in a long-term relationship. It is the foundation for affair prevention, and divorce prevention. Learning these valuable skills can ensure a successful marriage.


Get your relationship on track as early as possible.

Make sure you invest in your relationship throughout your life, and especially in the earlier stages. The average wedding in the United States costs over $30,000. Imagine if every couple in the US invested even a fraction of what was spent on their wedding into building a strong foundation for their marriage and future.


Fulfilling relationships actually improve overall quality and length of life.

Our connections to other people are the single most important part of our lives. Research has even shown that the quality of our relationships are more important for our health and longevity than the food we eat. If you are struggling with your relationship, then fixing it could be the most important thing you do for you and your partner’s health.


"My husband and I got more done in 3 hours with Dr H than in several years of therapy with multiple therapists."


"After just one neurofeedback session my wife said I was a changed man. I was more pleasant, had more energy, and I slept great that night."


"I just wanted to say thanks for the good session today. It's great to have the practical exercise. Looking forward to using it."


"I can confidently say I feel like myself again. I am so thankful I have met Dr H.”


"I can’t say enough about Dr. Helfand. Every morning, I’d wonder how I could possibly get through another day. I was cranky. Ask my husband. Since working with you, I have seen such amazing improvement, and I even finished writing two novels! Dr. Helfand is kind and approachable, entirely professional, but with a ready sense of humor. I highly recommend this practice to anyone who wants to reclaim lost parts of themselves, or who just wants to be their best possible self. It’s amazing getting up every day and looking forward to life!"


"Thanks for all the help this past year. Our son really does seem to be doing better in school and at keeping his mind from cycling through worries."


“I just wanted to say thank you for the amazing help you gave me. I’ve continued to manage my anxiety using skills you taught me, and I now work full time and I’m planning to go back to school. Before I saw you, I could barely leave my room, but now my life is completely different and I’m able to do pretty much anything I want to. I just wanted to thank you again for all the awesome help you gave me that I continue to use every day!”


What if I'm not married, but in a relationship?

Then you are in a growing segment of the population. Many young couples are deciding not to get married for a variety of reasons. The skills that you will learn during your retreat work in or out of marriage, with friends, with co workers, and even in personal self reflection.

Think back to your sex education classes in school. If you even had a class, it probably focused on abstinence education or the body mechanics of reproduction. Perhaps you are having a flashback to images of body parts being drawn on the chalkboard while the students around you giggled. Maybe you were even lucky enough to be taught a little about healthy sex and not just persuaded to avoid it all together… read more